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OK, I seriously love kids. I think they're cute and fun to be around, and I like to pinch their chubby little cheeks.
Look, hive! I even have evidence. I spend every Wednesday with this little munchkin.
She doesn't know it yet, but she totally loves those Harry Potter glasses.
You've just met our FG. She's not technically my niece, but I call her my niece (she's cousin Seal's daughter).
Anyhow, why am I trying so hard to convince you that I love children? Maybe because I have a guilty conscience. And with that I will confess my sin: apart from the bridal party, children will not be invited to our wedding. Gasp! The horror!
So if I love kids so much, you're probably wondering why they're not getting invites, right? Well, this was one of *the* most difficult wedding-related decisions for us to make but we decided it had to be for the following three reasons.
The Venue: We're hosting a black-tie reception at a venue made primarily of marble. MARBLE! Kids and marble floors (and marble columns) have no business hanging out. It's dangerous and makes me anxious and I'd never relax.
The Guestlist: Where do we draw the line? Our guestlist is already hovering around 290 people and adding everyone's children would easily add another 50. And that's not just adding 50 mini-mouths to feed—that would mean 50 more chairs and place settings, 5 more tables, more linens, more menu cards (yes, perhaps the kids don't need these but I'm crazy and require uniformity) and possibly more escort cards. Ahhh, my heart is jumping out of my chest just thinking about the added costs!
The 'Night on the town' Atmosphere: Many of my nearest and dearest cousins have children whom I absolutely cherish. Prohibiting them from bringing their precious little kiddies was an unbearable thought to me until one of them casually said, "It's like a night on the town! No kids? No worries!" Once it occurred to me that some of these parents might actually enjoy one night away from the wee ones, my heart was put to ease and the issue was settled.
Following etiquette, we will avoid putting any indication of our "Adults Only Reception" on our invites—instead we have spread the word by mouth (and made a tactful note on our website). I've even taken on the task of helping to coordinate childcare for those who are interested.
So hive, what's the verdict? Am I a terrible person, or what?! Are you having an "adults only" reception?
2 Comments:
Those kids would be bored out of their minds anyway. So no big, they're happier at home watching Disney movies.
Seeing as how my wedding will take place in a big field, (or more like a redwood grove) children will be welcome. I might even stock the place with juice boxes.
I don't think that you're out of line here--ESPECIALLY with your reception being very formal. It would make a lot less sense if it were an afternoon wedding in the park. Personally, if I had kids, and saw the location/time/attire of the ceremony, bringing my kids would be the last thing I'd want to do...and like Tracy said, the kids would be bored at the ceremony.
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